Advice for Planning a Second Wedding

A second or third wedding is an exciting time for couples to create a unique and more personalized celebration that may differ from their previous wedding(s). However, planning another wedding can still cause stress and/or concern over what others may be thinking. To minimize anxiety, we have collected some of the best advice for those getting married for a second (or third time) that will make the process a little easier.

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  • Your special day means you get to decide what you want to wear. If your feel like wearing white, go for it! If not, colored gowns and short dresses are in so you will look beautiful no matter what you decided to wear for your wedding. Prefer to drift away from a train or veil? Try a floral headband or beaded and bedazzled waistband.
  • While some tend to scale back on second weddings by keeping it simple and having a smaller guest list, it’s a celebration of your love and union so you can’t go wrong with any size. Have as big or as small of a wedding as you want.
  • Even though it might be your second or third wedding, you can still register for gifts. Chances are, you will be set with the traditional gifts such as home décor, kitchenware, and linens, so take this opportunity to register for fun gifts. Maybe you are a camping aficionado and need a new tent, or you’re dying to go on an exotic vacation. If there isn’t anything you need or want, you can ask your guests to make a charitable donation in lieu of gifts.
  • A tiny detail often left unmentioned is the marriage license. While the process to acquire one is still relatively the same, you must have a divorce decree from your previous marriage. If you are widowed, you will need a copy of your deceased spouse’s death certificate. Every state is different so make sure you check with your local, county clerk to find out the specific documents they require.
  • Going into a second marriage can be scary due to lingering fears and hesitations from the end of your first marriage. Consider premarital counseling during your engagement. This can help you and your spouse overcome any fears, better understand each other’s expectations and go into your new life with a positive attitude. This ensures everyone is on the same page.
  • If you have children from your previous marriage, make sure to include them in the wedding. Junior bridesmaids, flower girls and ring bearers are great ways to incorporate your children into your special day. You could even write your vows to incorporate everyone and share them as “family values”.
  • Your second, or third, honeymoon is just as important as your first. If there are children involved, look for kid-friendly locations and bring the whole crew. A family honeymoon is a great opportunity to jumpstart your new blended family.
  • Most importantly, have fun! No matter what number wedding it is, its your day and you should enjoy and remember every second.

“Being someone’s first love may be great, but to be their last is beyond perfect.” —Unknown Author